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 The Key to Wedded Bliss? Money Matters

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September 10, 2008

The Key to Wedded Bliss? Money Matters


IF you ask married people why their
marriage works, they are probably not going to say it’s because they
found their financial soul mate.
But if they are lucky, they have. Marrying a person who shares your
attitudes about money might just be the smartest financial decision you
will ever make. In fact, when it comes to finances, your marriage is
likely to be your most valuable asset — or your largest liability.
Marrying for love is a relatively recent phenomenon. For centuries,
marriages were arranged affairs, aligning families for economic or
political purposes or simply pooling the resources of those scraping by.
Today, while most of us marry for romantic reasons, marriage at its
core is still a financial union. So much of what we want — or don’t
want — out of life boils down to dollars and cents, whether it’s how
hard we choose to work, how much we consume or how much we save. For
some people, it’s working 80-hour weeks to finance a third home and
country club membership; for others, it means cutting back on office
hours to spend more time with the family.
“A lot of the debates people have about money are code for how we
want to live our lives,” said Betsey Stevenson, assistant professor of
business and public policy at the University of Pennsylvania’s
Wharton School, who researches the economics of marriage and divorce.
“A lot of the choices we make in how we want to live our lives involve
how we spend our money.”
Making those choices as a team is one of the most important ways to
preserve your marital assets, and your union, experts say. But it’s
that much easier when you already share similar outlooks on money
matters — or when you can, at the very least, find some middle ground.
The economies achieved by pairing up are fairly obvious. However,
the costs of divorce can be financially devastating, especially when
children are involved. And, not surprisingly, money manages to force a
wide wedge between many couples.
“Most people think people break up over sex issues and children
issues — and those are issues — but money is a huge factor in breaking
up marriages,” said Susan Reach Winters, a divorce lawyer in Short
Hills, N.J.
Not everyone is married to a financial twin, and that’s not
necessarily a problem. There are several ways that you and your
significant other can become more compatible, and ultimately more
prosperous, when it comes to money.
These guidelines are compiled from the successfully married and from experts on psychology, divorce and finance:
TALK AND SHARE GOALS Before walking down
the aisle, couples should have a talk about their financial health and
goals. They should ask each other tough questions: Do we want children?
When? Who will care for them? Will they go to public or private school?
What kind of life do we want? When will we retire?
“In my ideal plan for couples, they would have a meeting every week
on their finances,” said Karen Altfest, a financial planner who runs
the New York firm L. J. Altfest & Company, with her husband, Lewis.
“That way, they are in sync with each other’s goals.”
Set those goals together. Jerry Ballard, 58, a former insurance
executive in Houston, said that he and his wife of 36 years, Susan,
also 58, managed to avoid money clashes because they share a savings
philosophy. “The cardinal rule was that we don’t interrupt our
savings,” he said, adding that they saved between 10 and 20 percent of
their salaries each year. As long as they did that, they were less
likely to disagree about spending.
Eric Gundlach, 53, of Owings Mills, Md., who has been married for
29 years, said he and his wife, Ann-Michele, “made our expectations
explicit.” These included sending their son to private school and
having big experiences, like traveling, in lieu of purchasing things.
and keep track of earnings, expenses and debts. And structure your
business as a partnership; when it comes to making big financial
decisions and setting goals, do it together. “When they are making the
decisions together, they really have ownership of those decisions and
any results of those decisions,” said Mary Ann Sisco, national wealth
adviser at JPMorgan’s private wealth management division. “Even if you have negative results, you tend to weather the storm better.”
Share responsibilities, too. Though one partner tends to control the
finances, advisers recommend rotating tasks. One person should handle
investments for a certain period, while the other pays the bills;
rotate and repeat.
supportive partner helps you professionally, which should trickle down
to your mutual bottom line. “Marrying the right person helps you
succeed in your career through encouragement and support, the only kind
of support that comes through a supportive, intimate relationship,”
said Mr. Gundlach, whose wife backed his decision to start a management
consulting practice after 22 years as a human resources executive.
cushion, and live a lifestyle you can sustain. Many people who were
working at hedge funds that went bust or financial firms like Bear Stearns
are learning these lessons now. Ms. Sisco, of JPMorgan, said that
because her younger clients haven’t experienced a downturn, they
assumed the money would keep pouring in.
She said she is working with one couple in their early 30s who have
two young children. Right before the husband lost his job on Wall
Street, the couple had ordered $35,000 drapes. They had to move to a
smaller apartment in Manhattan and had to sell their vacation home.
USE A MEDIATOR Perhaps both of you have
strong yet divergent opinions about how to invest. Or maybe you are a
saver while your spouse prefers to hand over a big piece of earnings to
Bavarian Motor Works. An independent third party, whether a financial
planner or a therapist, can help you find a middle ground.
Marc B. Schindler, a financial planner at Pivot Point Advisors in
Bellaire, Tex., recently did this for a client who complained that his
wife spent a thousand dollars a month on her wardrobe. Mr. Schindler
then contacted the wife, who said her husband spent just as much on
dinner with his buddies. So the husband asked Mr. Schindler to show how
much they would save if they invested the $12,000 she spent each year.
Mr. Schindler — careful to title the report “Clothing, Dinner or
Invested?” — ran an analysis and found that the couple would have $1.6
million after 28 years, assuming a 9 percent rate of return. “They are
going to try and compromise,” he said.
resources is important, but so is maintaining a degree of financial
independence. Carve out some money for both partners to spend on things
that make them happy. And when paring back, it’s essential that each
person make sacrifices.
and money — together. Go on dates. “What that does is enliven the
marital foundation,” said Gary S. Shunk, a Chicago therapist who
specializes in wealth issues. “It’s a kind of investment into the heart
and soul of the relationship.”
Think of it as dollar-cost averaging your marriage, where you make
small investments over time. If you wait until retirement, it could be
too late.
Melanie Schnoll-Begun, a managing director in the Citigroup
Family Office, worked with a couple that waited too long. The husband
had amassed great wealth for the family, and his wife kept a beautiful
home. But once the husband retired, “they found out that over the years
they grew so far apart that they didn’t have enough in common,” she
“They had this magnificent wealth, and it was the building of this wealth that ultimately led to their divorce.”

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